What’s really holding you back?
Letting go of the past is probably one of the hardest things to do. You might feel like it is easy, especially if the past brings up a lot of bad memories, but what about all of those times when you had to let go of someone or something important to you? Those times were hard to forget or leave.
I’ve always hated when someone has told me to move on or let it go after a breakup.
I can shrug most things off, but there are sometimes when moving on from a situation or person is just NOT going to happen that easily. Take a bad break up; a bad break up with someone who you thought was going to be around forever.
If someone told you to move on and stop worrying about it, would you be so willing to do so? No, probably not. Or a really great job you had to give up because you had to take care of family or move away. It hurts to say, but those are situations where you may never get closure.
And it sucks, but at some point, you DO need to move on and stop worrying what has happened in the past because it only brings you more pain to keep these feelings of lost and regret around.
Okay, I know, I know, saying “move on” is so much easier said than done, but let’s think about ways to actually put this “moving on” into action. When I go through a bad break up, I like to move on by burning everything that reminds me of them. Just kidding.
But removing those things that keep you attached to the past does actually help. And if you’re not in the business of getting rid of things, cleaning is very cathartic.
Deep cleaning your house and your heart can do wonders, trust me. And if all else fails? Cry it out, baby. Sometimes, you just need to let it out until it doesn’t hurt anymore.
But even when it feels like you can’t move on – no matter what it is that’s keeping you from letting go of the past – just remember that you are strong enough to handle anything life can throw your way.
I know it sounds cheesy, and I know I’m not the best person to come to with advice, but …Continue Reading