Trust is earned.
There’s nothing worse than the feeling you get when you find out you’ve been cheated on. It’s gut-wrenching, blood-boiling AWFUL. There’s nothing that compares to that betrayal.
The texts you find, the necklace in the backseat of his car, the pictures on his phone. It’s rage and fear and sadness all at the same time.
Yet… we are somehow tempted to take them back anyway. It’s that smile, the way they say they’re sorry (and seem like they actually mean it), that makes you WANT to forgive them and pretend like it never happened.
You WISH it were that easy, my friend. You wish things could go back to the way they were BEFORE they were cheating. But they can’t.
If your partner even has an IDEA that they want to cheat, they’re already halfway out the door. It’s the harsh truth that someone needs to share with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You’ll always be taken back to the moment when they told you, or that feeling you get when you picture them with someone else.
It sucks. It feels awful, and you don’t deserve to have to go through that once, let alone again if you take them back.
Even if they SWEAR they’ll never cheat, will you trust them? Will you believe them when they say they’re out with friends, or will you always wonder?
Is it really worth it? I know where you’re at, the in-between where you COULD take them back, apologies and all. It’s so tempting. But you can’t. Because deep down you know it would never be the same.
You’ll always be glancing at their phone or checking their location, and they’ll always be trying to hide what they’re doing from you.
You don’t want to stay, you’re angry and you don’t want your emotions getting in the way. You just want to walk out of their lives entirely and feel confident and happy about it.
It’s not easy, walking away, but you’ve GOT this. Take the baby step of reminding yourself daily that you deserve better.
You’ll be lonely and feel desperate, but you can power through. You will find that being alone is so much better than being with someone who makes you feel miserable and unwanted.
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