Cheating cuts a deep wound. Can you forgive?
When you were a kid, how often did you get into fights? Even if it wasn’t much, there was always that thing you had to do afterwards: apologize. Personally I hated when adults made me say I was sorry. And honestly, I still hate it. No one can really make me say it anymore, but it always turns into one of those situations where everything is just really awkward and uncomfortable until you do.
Apologizing can be hard. Saying you’re sorry is like admitting you messed up (and maybe you did), but no one wants to actually admit that. Who likes being in the wrong? Anyone? However, if there’s anything harder than apologizing, it’s forgiving.
You’re put into the position to try to be the better person and to tell the one that wronged you that it’s okay, that there’s no ill-will. But that’s easier said than done. No matter if you accept their apology or not, there’s still a part of you that’s mad at them. Not many people can just forgive and entirely forget.
Now let’s throw fuel on the fire and say your partner cheats on you and asks you to forgive them. Now what? This obviously goes beyond accidently breaking a China plate. This is serious stuff. You feel hurt and betrayed. Can you really accept them saying sorry for something that was (most likely) a conscious act?
In my opinion, the aftermath of cheating is to be taken on a case-by-case basis. If it’s clear it was truly a drunken lapse in judgment and you’re fairly certain it won’t happen again, maybe you forgive them. But, if they don’t actually seem sorry and seem more like they’ll go back to their new partner again, then there’s no point in accepting their apology.
Ultimately, it’s up to you whether or not you forgive cheating. But whether you’re looking for a reason to or a stronger argument to break up, here are 20 quotes on cheating and forgiveness.
1. Don’t make cheating seem normal.
“The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too.” –Stephen Covey
2. Unfortunately, cheating usually puts blame on both parties.
“Often, when cheating happens, we rush to place …Continue Reading