Live, laugh, love — Yeah, you know the drill.
I know, I know, you’ve heard it all before. And trust me, I get it. When you’re going through a rough time, sometimes inspirational words of wisdom are the absolute last thing you want to hear. Yeah, yeah. I know everything happens for a reason. Please keep your positive energy, cliches and self-care advice to yourself; I’ll handle this by napping too much and eating junk food — thanks.
I used to be firmly against “good vibes” of any kind. I was the relentlessly cynical friend who made it my job to always point out when the glass was really half empty. (Yes, I was a delight at parties.)
I liked to pretend that I was just being realistic, that what other people called cynicism or negativity was really just the truth. I told myself that I saw the world for what it really was, and everyone else was just lying to themselves.
The reality? I was just scared. I was trying to protect myself from disappointment by never allowing myself to hope or try for anything at all.
I didn’t want to deal with the shame and disappointment of wanting something and failing to get it. If I never allowed myself to want anything, I couldn’t be disappointed, now could I? Life hack!
And it worked… Sort of. I was never disappointed, but I sure as hell never actually got any of the things I secretly wanted. (It turns out you can’t actually turn off the part of your brain that wants stuff.) It took me a long time, but eventually I realized that the negative attitude I thought was protecting me had really just been holding me back.
Listen, I’m not saying I’m a completely reformed convert to the “good vibes” lifestyle. Don’t just dye their hair black to show everyone that they’re a beacon of optimism. But, the truth is, positive thinking and energy really are powerful. It may not seem like a bunch of inspirational quotes are the key to your success, (and frankly it does take much more than that) but a positive mindset really is crucial to getting the things you want in life.
Whether you’re working toward a long-term goal, experiencing a major life change or just trying to get through the day (like turning off Netflix and putting on real pants), …Continue Reading