Let’s set better expectations for our men.
If I could sum up toxic masculinity with one Disney character, it would be Gaston from Beauty and the Beast. He’s gorgeous, adored by many and has bulging muscles. But these aren’t the reasons he exuded toxic masculinity. It’s his belief that he’s better than the rest of the world because of his macho behavior.
He hunts wildlife for sport, he continues to go after the girl even after she denies his advances and leads a whole mob to the beast’s home just because he’d felt threatened.
Toxic masculinity exists all around us. It’s this idea that men are supposed to be stoic creatures who never cry or feel anything. Men are supposed to be the breadwinners.
According to an article by Jacey Fortin in the New York Times, the the American Psychological Association released several guides for psychologists on “traditional masculinity ideology”. According to the guides, men “are often negatively affected [by toxic masculinity] in terms of mental and physical health,” and that toxic masculinity consists of various ideologies across different cultures, including “anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence.”
Toxic masculinity also reinforces the idea that there is only one type of man, and if a man tries to act different from the norm, he’s considered an outcast. This creates a lot of pressure for boys who don’t even know who they are yet.
The issue with toxic masculinity is that it enforces the notion that men can’t have feelings and are weak if they do. Being human is hard, so how can you expect someone not to have strong emotions towards something? Men should be allowed to emote because it’s healthy and a natural thing to do in life.
Furthermore, toxic masculinity undermines a woman’s power because the “bad” traits are commonly associated with women, who cannot exemplify masculinity by nature (or so toxic masculinity claims). In short, being a man means being the opposite of a woman.
Here are 25 masculinity quotes about men that will help better understand toxic masculinity and why we need to allow men to share their emotions.
1. Choose your actions wisely.
“Being a male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of choice.” — Edwin Louis Cole
2. Don’t play childish games.
“Manhood is the defeat of childhood narcissism.” — David …Continue Reading