Trust is earned.
There’s nothing worse than the feeling you get when you find out you’ve been cheated on. It’s gut-wrenching, blood-boiling AWFUL. There’s nothing that compares to that betrayal.
The texts you find, the necklace in the backseat of his car, the pictures on his phone. It’s rage and fear and sadness all at the same time.
Yet… we are somehow tempted to take them back anyway. It’s that smile, the way they say they’re sorry (and seem like they actually mean it), that makes you WANT to forgive them and pretend like it never happened.
You WISH it were that easy, my friend. You wish things could go back to the way they were BEFORE they were cheating. But they can’t.
If your partner even has an IDEA that they want to cheat, they’re already halfway out the door. It’s the harsh truth that someone needs to share with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You’ll always be taken back to the moment when they told you, or that feeling you get when you picture them with someone else.
It sucks. It feels awful, and you don’t deserve to have to go through that once, let alone again if you take them back.
Even if they SWEAR they’ll never cheat, will you trust them? Will you believe them when they say they’re out with friends, or will you always wonder?
Is it really worth it? I know where you’re at, the in-between where you COULD take them back, apologies and all. It’s so tempting. But you can’t. Because deep down you know it would never be the same.
You’ll always be glancing at their phone or checking their location, and they’ll always be trying to hide what they’re doing from you.
You don’t want to stay, you’re angry and you don’t want your emotions getting in the way. You just want to walk out of their lives entirely and feel confident and happy about it.
It’s not easy, walking away, but you’ve GOT this. Take the baby step of reminding yourself daily that you deserve better.
You’ll be lonely and feel desperate, but you can power through. You will find that being alone is so much better than being with someone who makes you feel miserable and unwanted.
It takes some empowering moments to really show you how happy you can be without them, and you’ll never date a cheater again.
We’ve found some pretty powerful quotes that will help you remember why you should NEVER take back a cheater, even when you’re tempted!
It’s not easy, but you deserve SO much better than that.
“Never underestimate a man’s ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes.” — Rhianna
“Dear Ex… When you see me, I want you to recognize what you had, regret what you lost, and realize what you’re never getting back.”
“If another woman steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can’t be stolen.”
“He’s living his life so stop letting him get in the way of you living yours.”
“No relationship is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want.”
“Remember, there’s a difference between somebody who wants you and somebody who would do anything to keep you.”
“They didn’t cheat because of who you are. They chose to cheat because of who they are not.” — Charles J. Orlando
“Guys are like bras, they hook up behind your back.”
“How can he love you when he treats you as if he doesn’t even like you.” — r.h. Sin
“If you didn’t want me to tell people that you were a lying piece of shit then you should not have been a lying piece of shit. Pretty simple.”
“Stop asking me to trust you while I’m still coughing up water from the last time you let me drown.”
“How can he love you when he treats you as if he doesn’t even like you.” — r.h. Sin
“It’s better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there or doesn’t want to be there.”
“I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me.”
“You don’t deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves.”