A friend’s betrayal can break your heart more than love.
Betrayal brings up a lot of emotions for me. When I put my trust in someone, I expect them to honor that trust. I don’t just throw my trust around like it’s nothing, and you probably don’t, either.
But even then, I have a hard time putting my trust in people who I don’t know all that well. Perhaps you feel differently, but I don’t readily tell classmates or coworkers or gym buddies about my personal life or share secrets with them until I get to know them better.
When I can call someone a friend, then I know my secrets are safe with them. But when I’m betrayed by a friend, I feel a lot of emotions at once. I feel hurt that someone I thought cared about me could turn around and stab me in the back. I feel mad at myself for opening up to someone so easily (even if it wasn’t my fault and wasn’t as easy as I think). I feel lost because now I’ve lost someone I thought was my friend.
Being betrayed by just anyone is hard. But when you’ve been betrayed by someone you thought was your best friend, it can change you.
Rather than continuing to be the friendly, trusting person everyone knows, you might start hiding things from people or becoming more closed off.
Going so long being able to open up to someone you cared about until one day you suddenly can’t really makes you treat the same situations differently. You can’t ask your best friend for help anymore or tell her about a secret you’ve been holding in forever.
Now you have to figure things out on your own until you can find another best friend. And let me tell you — replacing a best friend isn’t like replacing an old shirt with a hole in it; it’s more like replacing your favorite bra. You know, the one that makes your boobs look incredible and maybe even a size bigger in the right light. The one you’ve had for years, yet somehow still has more support than ever. The one that looks good under any top and feels like you’re not wearing a bra at all. Oh yeah, and the one that’s been discontinued for five years.
Needless to say, replacing a best friend sucks BIG TIME. And when you’re left without a best friend — AKA the bra that was made by the gods themselves — you feel off-your-game and just wrong.
But it’s important to remember that being betrayed by your best friend isn’t your fault. You’re the victim here, not her. And if you’ve ever read any quotes when someone hurts you, then you know that blaming the victim is only something someone does when they feel bad about hurting you.
So after you read these quotes and mourn a little bit, block her number, join a yoga class, and find someone who can potentially be your new best friend.