Does he know how to be the man you need? The Bible can help you to find out.
It’s a tough decision in anyone’s life to find the right partner to be with for the rest of your life.
God wants us to be happy and he wants us to be able to multiply under marriage with the right person. Most of our happiness is influenced by who we decide to marry, but how do you know if a man is “the one” or if you’re already married, how to be a better partner to your spouse?
If you go into marriage looking for constant fireworks of emotions that you’ll always end up disappointed.
What last in a happy relationship is friendship, so when you are looking for a good husband (or wife) as a religious person your faith truly does come first. While there are examples of mixed religious families having a foundation of shared values makes the process a lot easier.
A lot more of your focus should be put on how at peace you feel with the man that you’re with. God is not looking for you to be anxious in your life.
Another aspect relating to feeling at peace is feeling at home with your spouse. What that means is “is being together easy?” if the answers yes that’s a good fit.
Now that isn’t to say there won’t be disagreements because that happens in every connection. Trusting your gut instinct is also an option.
Ultimately having a common goal of getting to heaven is what can make a relationship last a lifetime. Being able to have intellectual conversations about your faith and about your role in the world is what leads to a stronger friendship.
Friendship leads to a stronger marriage. A marriage that will be a model for your kids about how they should treat their partner in the future.
If you need any more insight on what makes a good marital partner, looking towards the Bible can be a good tool for what you should look for in your man. Here is what makes a good husband, according to the Bible.
1. A good spouse has the right priorities.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” — Matthew 6:33
2. Marriage partners define love in healthy ways.
“Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” — Matthew 10:37
3. Spouses who love God love each other.
“And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind…” — Matthew 22:39
4. Being faithful to each other is a priority.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” — Hebrews 13:4
5. Remaining calm is key.
“Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure.” — Timothy 5:22
6. Each spouse does his or her part to avoid temptation.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” — Corinthians 6:18-20
7. They learn something new each day about each other and yourself.
“I appeal to you, therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” — Romans 12:1-2
8. They stay true to their morals.
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” — Proverbs 4:23
9. Each honors what is honorable.
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?” — Job 31:1
10. Once you’re married, the relationship comes first.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” — Genesis 2:24
11. Both trust God to help in times of need.
“God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.” — Psalms 46:5
12. There’s a trust in God to support the marriage.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” — Proverbs 3:5-6
13. Good spouses avoid friends who encourage the wrong things.
“Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” — Corinthians 15:33
14. Faith is at the center of the relationship.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?” — Corinthians 6:14-15
15. Showing love is done each day.
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” — Peter 4:8
16. They are genuine with one another.
“Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” — Romans 12:9-10
17. They hope in all things.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” — Corinthians 13:4-7
18. They have the right fruits.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.” — Galatians 5:22-24
19. There’s no room for addictive behaviors.
“And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart.” — Ephesians 5:19
20. They align with Christ.
“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 2:5
21. They know what love is.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” — Ephesians 5:25
22. They forsake all others.
“For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” — Genesis 2:24
23. Godly partners practice self-love.
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” — Ephesians 5:33
24. A good spouse is thankful.
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” — Corinthians 10:31
25. A good marital partner understands that marriage has a purpose.
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.” — Romans 8:28-29