What’s really holding you back?
Letting go of the past is probably one of the hardest things to do. You might feel like it is easy, especially if the past brings up a lot of bad memories, but what about all of those times when you had to let go of someone or something important to you? Those times were hard to forget or leave.
I’ve always hated when someone has told me to move on or let it go after a breakup.
I can shrug most things off, but there are sometimes when moving on from a situation or person is just NOT going to happen that easily. Take a bad break up; a bad break up with someone who you thought was going to be around forever.
If someone told you to move on and stop worrying about it, would you be so willing to do so? No, probably not. Or a really great job you had to give up because you had to take care of family or move away. It hurts to say, but those are situations where you may never get closure.
And it sucks, but at some point, you DO need to move on and stop worrying what has happened in the past because it only brings you more pain to keep these feelings of lost and regret around.
Okay, I know, I know, saying “move on” is so much easier said than done, but let’s think about ways to actually put this “moving on” into action. When I go through a bad break up, I like to move on by burning everything that reminds me of them. Just kidding.
But removing those things that keep you attached to the past does actually help. And if you’re not in the business of getting rid of things, cleaning is very cathartic.
Deep cleaning your house and your heart can do wonders, trust me. And if all else fails? Cry it out, baby. Sometimes, you just need to let it out until it doesn’t hurt anymore.
But even when it feels like you can’t move on – no matter what it is that’s keeping you from letting go of the past – just remember that you are strong enough to handle anything life can throw your way.
I know it sounds cheesy, and I know I’m not the best person to come to with advice, but it’s true.
And if your own thoughts are making it even harder to start looking towards the future, then use these quotes about moving on after a breakup to get you into a more positive mindset so you can put the past behind you and start thinking about the future.
“If you really want closure… at some point, you have to shut the door.” — Jacki Wells Wunderlin
“Sometimes, your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.”
“To heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.”
“If you don’t leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future. Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.”
“The easiest way to teach someone how to treat you is to refuse to give them more opportunities to hurt you. Walk away…” — R.H. Sin
“Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.”
“If you lost it, it’s because you’re meant to find something better. Trust, let go, and make room for what’s coming.” — Mandy Hale
“Sometimes, we have to let go of what’s killing us, even if it’s killing us to let go.”
“The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.”
“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”
“When thinking about life, remember this: no amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.”
“Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday, it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow.”
“Inhale the future, exhale the past.”
“To Do: Live in the moment.”
“Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better.”
“You can only move on if you accept that it’s gone.” — The Goddess Rebellion
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” — Socrates
“Time heals nothing unless you move along with it.”
“Don’t be afraid to start over. It’s a brand new opportunity to rebuild what you truly want.”
“Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful.”