Some good words can go a long way.
In light of what has happened throughout the past few years, our country has experienced plenty of grieving. There have been so many terror attacks, mass shootings, and random acts of violence throughout the entire world.
Due to all of the terrible violence, many people are grieving the loss of a loved one or simply the seeming loss of humanity.
Sometimes knowing what to say or do for a person who is grieving is very difficult and doesn’t come naturally to a lot of people. You may be worried about saying the wrong thing or saying something that doesn’t help. It can be hard to help someone who is grieving, even when you are grieving too.
1. Understanding the process.
“It’s the process of grieving that’s important and necessary, not the understanding of it.” — Unknown
2. Remembering your loved one is in a happy place.
“I made it home I just wanted to let you know that I made it home. Everything is so pretty here, so white, so fresh, so new. I wish that you could close your eyes so you could see it too. Please try not to be sad for me. Try to understand. God is taking care of me…I’m in the shelter of his hands. Here there is no sadness, and no sorrow, and no pain. Here there is no crying, and I’ll never hurt again. Here it is peaceful when all the angels sing. I really have to go for now… I’ve just got to try my wings. PS… I’ll be the first face you see when you get here!” — Unknown
3. Do what is best for you.
“No rule book. No time frame. No judgment. Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Do what is right for your soul.” — 1fw
4. Sometimes checking in is all someone needs.
“Just checking on you and praying God takes extra special care of you today!” — Hebrews 4:16
5. Having a shoulder to cry on.
“There is nothing I can say to take away your hurt but you have my shoulder to cry on and my loving hugs. Know that I will be here for you when you need me.” — Unknown
6. Be by their side.
“Maybe I can’t stop the downpour, but I will always join you for a walk in the rain.” — Unknown
7. How grief changes us.
“You don’t get over it, you get through it… It doesn’t get better, it gets different…Every day, just like me, Grief puts on a new face.” — Unknown
8. A blessing to share for that person grieving.
“A grief blessing may the sun bring you new energy every day, bringing light into the darkness of your soul may the moon softly restore you by night bathing you in the glow of restful sleep and peaceful dreams may the rain wash away your worries and cleanse the hurt that sits in your heart may the breeze blow new strength into your being, and may you believe in the courage of yourself may you walk gently through the world, keeping your loved one with you always knowing that you are never parted in the beating of your heart.” — Native Apache Blessing
9. Do not feel bad about what you are feeling or doing in your grief.
“It’s okay. It’s okay to miss them. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to laugh. It’s okay to breathe deeply. It’s okay to smile when you think of them. It’s okay to function. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to be thankful. It’s okay to love again. It’s okay to remember. It’s okay to hope. It’s okay, to be honest. It’s okay to trust again. It’s okay. It’s okay. It’s okay.” — Scribbles & Crumbs
10. Just keep swimming.
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim”. — Vicki Harrison
11. The spirit of their loved one is always there.
“A dragonfly to remind me even though we are apart your spirit is always with me forever in my heart.” — Always In My Heart
12. Always nearby us.
“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, and held so dear.” — Unknown
13. We learn to live with the grief.
“It’s not about getting over it it’s about learning to live with it.” — Unknown
14. Their light remains here on Earth.
“There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains.” — Unknown
15. The ways grief impacts who we become.
“Grief changes us the pain sculpts us into someone who understands more deeply hurts more often appreciates more quickly cries more easily hopes more desperately loves more openly.” — Unknown
16. Sometimes words aren’t necessary.
“Sitting silently beside a friend who is hurting may be the best gift we can give.” — Unknown
17. Take your time.
“Healing takes time and you are doing the best you can and that is perfect.” — Unknown
18. We can lift one another up in times of sorrow.
“We rise by lifting others.” — Robert Ingersoll
19. We absorb that loss.
“I know now that we never get over great losses; we absorb them, and they carve us into different, often kinder, creatures.” — Unknown
20. Sharing our sympathy for what they are going through.
“My deepest sympathy as the days continue to pass, I hope you find comfort and support in the people that surround you and the wonderful memories you carry in your mind and in your heart.” — Unknown
21. Let them know you are thinking of them.
“Although I know that no words can ease the loss you feel, just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.” — Unknown
22. They are on our mind.
“Thinking of you at this time of sorrow, with a wish for strength as you face tomorrow.” — Unknown
23. Wishing whatever brings them peace will come around.
“Whatsoever soothes your spirit comforts your soul and brings you peace… that is what is wished for you at this difficult time.” — Unknown
24. Hoping they find peace.
“May your heart find peace and tranquility through the healing power of love, hope, and light, today and always.” — Unknown
25. The hope of Heaven.
“May the hope of heaven give you peace, and the tender touch of the father bring you comfort with sympathy and prayers.” — Unknown
26. A simple sorry.
“I’m so sorry for your loss!” — Unknown
27. They will meet again.
“Goodbyes are not forever. Goodbyes are not the end. They simply mean I’ll miss you until we meet again.” — Unknown
28. They are safe.
“Angels are always near to those who are grieving. To whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hands of God.” — Unknown
29. God’s comfort.
“Comfort for your sorrow…Courage for each new day… Strength to face this journey… His word to light your way… His grace to fill your heart with peace to understand… His love to hold you gently in the hollow of his hand.” — Unknown
30. Their loved one is happy.
“There are no tears in heaven, nor grief of any kind I leave this final teardrop to those I’ve left behind through absent from the body I’m present with the lord the joy of my salvation is now my full reward.” — Unknown