I do, do I?
The Bible encourages faithfulness. All of the scripture verses relate to commitment and reference a relationship to God or growing stronger in your faith with God to help you live out your life’s purpose.
What is commitment?
Dictionary.com defines commitment as an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action. It is essentially calling commitment a limitation.
But I think there is more to it than that. I think that what we can take away is that what we need to commit to something wholeheartedly is faith.
Perhaps not faith in God, but faith in our choices, faith in our partners and faith in ourselves.
No one is going to be able to trust in you until you trust in yourself.
Why then, is it sometimes easier to trust in our ability to stand alone than it is to trust our ability to stand in union with someone else?
So why are people scared of commitment?
In terms of relationships, there are lots of reasons we can feel limited. The obvious explanation is the feeling of physical limitations.
Being fully committed to someone does mean (speaking of monogamous relationships primarily) that you are devoted to only one partner.
But I think that is an easy answer.
There are a lot of other reasons that we feel limited in our relationships. You are no longer a solo performer you now are part of a team.
Your choices affect other people. If you decided you want to quit your job and backpack across the country tomorrow, that decision impacts someone else.
It can be a lot of pressure when you realize that your choices, even the ones that seem so inconsequential affect someone else.
So what does the Bible teach about being faithful, as it relates to commitment?
1. Sometimes you have to set your needs aside.
“Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others”. — Philippians 2:4
This is sometimes hard to live by. It is hard to put your own needs aside in the interest of someone else. It is something that we all need to practice. Shouldn’t it be easier when the person you are putting first is the person you love?
I think sometimes that makes it harder. When you love someone so much, you want them to be happy. It is hard to trust that they will get there when a lot of their happiness relies on you.
They need you to build them up, make them feel loved and important and seen. We can sometimes enter these commitments with defeatist attitudes.
The Bible encourages us to let God’s love surround us and fill us so we feel we have the strength to carry someone else with us through life.
2. The act of loving someone is enough.
“No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” — 1 John 4:12
Bible scripture, the main lesson the Bible teaches us about commitment. Your love, no matter your baggage, no matter your past, is enough.
If your words are faithful, your touch is kind, and your heart is loving, you will be fine.
3. The Bible shows us that through faith and love we will be able to follow through.
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” — 2 Corinthians 4:6
4. Being faithful brings peace.
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.” — Isaiah 23:3
5. Being faithful involves forgiveness.
“Above all, love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins.” — 1 Peter 4:8