You just can’t avoid change, no matter how hard you try. Change can be scary but it is necessary because it will help you grow. Although you might instinctively want to fight change, you have to learn when to just go with the flow and roll with the punches. Any major life change is hard but you will get past it — and it does get better.
I grew up in California and always dreamed of living in New York one day. I’m obsessed with broadway musicals and all I wanted was to be able to see them all the time. However, moving is terrifying and I was way too scared to leave my family and friends in California.
In my last year of high school, I applied to colleges and I was just too scared to apply to New York schools. As much as I wanted to go, I was scared that it wouldn’t live up to my expectations or that I would fail, so I just didn’t try. I applied to a bunch of schools around California and ended up attending a university that wasn’t too far away from my home. I hated it.
Right when I got to college, I realized I should have just faced my fear and applied to New York Schools. In the first month of being there, I was already sending out applications to NYU, Sarah Lawrence, and about ten other New York schools. I guess it was just meant to be, because I got accepted to every school I applied to and moved to New York the following year. I have now been in New York for six years and it surpassed all of my expectations. I am living my best life going to see matinee broadway shows by myself in the middle of the day and meeting up with friends in the evening.
Although I have no regrets, I realize that I shouldn’t have been so scared of change in the first place. I took a leap of faith into the unknown and am much happier now because of it. So if you are fearful to make a big change, seek comfort in knowing that it might be the best thing for you.
Some changes you don’t have control over but you don’t have to be scared of it. You will come out on top, because you always do.